The Resilience Blueprint: Lessons from The Obstacle Is the Way Part 3: Will and Cultivating Inner Endurance & Acceptance

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In Part 1, we looked at how perception determines our experience and challenges. In Part 2, we explored how discipline and taking action transforms hardships into growth. But, even with the right mindset and proper effort, outcomes don’t always fall our way. Clients relapse. Systems remain cumbersome and broken. Funding falls short.

That’s when the final pillar of the Stoic framework, and our Resilience Blueprint, comes to bat:

Will.

Will is not force. It’s not hustle culture and grinding harder or pretending everything’s fine. It’s the quiet, grounded strength that lets us understand and endure what we can’t control and find meaning in process.

“Amor fati—Love your fate”

The Power of Acceptance

Stoics believe that peace comes from accepting hardship, not from avoiding it. Acceptance doesn’t mean approval, it means choosing how to respond.

This distinction is bedrock for us as Social Work Professionals. We will face human suffering daily, and often within systems that limit what actions we can take to remedy that suffering. Without acceptance, frustration poisons us. With acceptance, we remain clear and compassionate.

Example: When a client misses their 3rd appointment in a month, our instinct could be disappointment or anger. But, seen through our lens of acceptance, we focus on what we can control (our empathy, our preparation) and we let go what we cannot control (their lack of respect and readiness for change).

Acceptance transforms helplessness into perspective and we stay grounded in uncertainty.

Endurance as a Form of Strength

Holiday writes that enduring difficulty with grace is a higher form of power than resistance. In Social Work, endurance isn’t passive, it’s active resilience. It means showing up when outcomes are unclear and staying rooted in purpose when progress is elusive.

The Endurance Audit

Identify one recurring challenge that always seem to drain you (e.g., heavy caseload, incompetent partner agency, administrative overload).
Ask:
- What parts of this can I control?
- What parts can I not control?
- How can I strengthen my response and loosen my resistance?
Write one sentence beginning with, “Even when ___, I will still ___.”(Example: “Even when the system is inefficient and ridiculous and , I will still show up with a good attitude and do the work with integrity.”)

The endurance muscle grows when we focus on what remains possible rather than what’s been lost.

Meaning as the Anchor

The great Viktor Frankl, who deeply influenced modern psychology and resilience thought, echoed some Stoic wisdom:

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

Meaning gives endurance purpose. When we connect our daily struggles to the deeper “why” of our work, we transform stress into significance. Real life alchemy.

For Social Workers, that might mean:

Remembering a client whose story changed you.
Reflecting on how your work ripples outward and contributes to a more compassionate world.
Finding meaning in the act of caring for the sake of caring.

Quick Practice:At the end of each week, finish this sentence:“This week challenged me, and it also reminded me that I value…”

This reconnects you to purpose which is the root of our professional resilience.

Integrating Will into the Eight Dimensions of Wellness

Inner endurance is supported by balance across SAMHSA’s Eight Dimensions of Wellness:

Spiritual: Reflecting on our purpose and values.
Emotional: Allowing space for grief, frustration, and joy.
Physical: Using rest, nutrition, and movement to restore our strength.
Social: Leaning on trusted colleagues and community.
Occupational: Setting boundaries that protect our long-term sustainability.
Intellectual: Continuing to learn and adapt.
Environmental: Creating calm, organized spaces to support our mental focus.
Financial: Making monetary choices that reduce unnecessary stress.

These dimensions act as anchors when our external stability threatens to drift. The stronger our internal foundation, the more resilient our will becomes.

Closing the Series: The Stillness Within the Storm

Just like health isn’t the absence of disease, resilience isn’t the absence of struggle. Resilience is the capacity to face struggle with steadiness and hope.

When perception reframes challenge, action follows purpose, and will steadies the Mindbody, the hardest days sharpen us.

Holiday reminds us, “What matters most is not what happens, but how we respond.”

For Social Work Professionals, this truth is timeless. Obstacles exist, and within each one lies a chance to deepen our courage, renew our compassion, and strengthen our will.